tips for beginner

[absule]

I'm 14 and I bought a pocket knife ( since i'm under aged I gave my dad the money and he bought it for me) and it made me feel protected and mature untill my mom took it away along with the crappy one she had given me. does anyone have any advise on something I could tell her to get it back or some tips on how to get one without my parents knowing. I forgot to mention my mom sais that I'm obsessed with knifes because I ask her about different knifes all the time, everytime I potilely ask about when I'm going to get it back her response is "its not up for discussion". I'm not sure But I think it about my Mother/sister who is older than me that collected all the scissors in the house and kept them by her bed when she was little and to this day keeps a led knight stick by her bed. my mom sais its a weapon and wont listen to me at all.

[Owd Wullie]

I'd say that in your particular situation that your parents still know best what good for you. Furthermore, only your actions and acting responsibly will get them to allow you to carry a knife. Trying to sneak around behind their back is not the most responsible course of action.

Also, carrying a knife to make you feel "protected and mature" are not good reasons to carry a knife.

I'm siding with your mom on this one.

[trail]

Demonstrate your maturity to your mom by doing your chores, making good grades at school and choosing your friends wisely. Then ask her politely if you can carry it again. Once that happens, never flash or show a knife to make people wary or scared of you. Don't carry it to school if that is against the rules. Get involved with the local knife collectors club. Always treat you knife well, keep it sharp and don't use it for a screwdriver or crowbar. If you do these things you will be on your way to adulthood. And keep one thing in mind - you are still young and you have to follow a lot of rules and do what other people tell you, but in just a few years you will have all the freedom you can handle - so hang in there and you will find that life just gets better and better as the years go by, as long as you don't do something stupid and get in trouble or killed.

[Froggyedge]

If you are interested in knives, that is great! This may be the beginning of a lifelong hobby.
Just be sure you are interested in knives for the right reasons.
As Owd Wullie said,
"...carrying a knife to make you feel "protected and mature" are not good reasons to carry a knife."

A knife is a fantastic tool capable of whittling, cutting and slicing. But it can never make you mature or responsible. Mature and responsible behavior comes first, then the knife. Also, and this is important: Never ever think of your pocket knife as a weapon. Your knife is a great tool, but not for resolving conflicts between you and other youths, or any other human being for that matter.

You want your parents to trust you and respect you as a responsible teenager. Getting a knife without them knowing will demonstrate that you are still not mature and responsible enough to carry a pocket knife.

Ask your mother why she took it away. Don't be mad, be polite.
Tell your parents that you really want to learn more about safe knife handling. Ask them to teach you. If they don't know much about knives, find somebody that does. Maybe a grandfather, an uncle, a neighbor or a teacher at school. Getting involved in a local knife collector's club , as Trail suggested, is an excellent idea.
Why not show your parents this site and tell them that you are seeking advice and knowledge from experienced collectors and knife users.
Hopefully they will soon trust that you are interested in knives for the right reasons and that you will use your knife carefully and responsibly, and you will get it back.

I hope you will stick around. This is a great place to learn!

[Blade Runner]

Sounds like Mom had already given you a knife and then Dad also helped you get another one. So what did you do for Mom to take them back?? Sounds like there's a missing piece to the puzzle here to me

[philco]

I want to suggest that you find and join a local Boy Scout troop. There you can learn about how to safely use and carry a pocketknife along with lots of other very useful skills. You will also learn about some important values that will hopefully help guide you into adulthood.
If you do that, and take it seriously, I'm guessing your parents will be impressed with you enough to allow you to have your knife back and when you get it back you will know how to handle it.

Phil

[woseyjales]

Previous posts have pretty well covered
everything but I would like to add some to it.
It is to your advantage that you have started young.
This is a good time to start studying the history and
different types of cutlery so that when you reach 18 y/o
you will have a very good headstart before you start buying
more pocket knives.
There will always be more knives you want than disposable
income for procurement so sooner you learn to pace yourself
the better.
And the better your education and career choice the more knives you can buy!
One last suggestion, remember one good basic guideline to keep in mind is
'Quality before Quantity'.
Particularly if you have hopes the collection will appreciate in value.

[ddixon]

Absule, welcome to AAPK.

I can relate with your predicament. A loooooooooong time ago when I was 14 my mom occasionally took things away from me. Usually some prized possession like my .22 Marlin lever action right when squirrel season opened, or my bowling ball right before a Saturday morning league game. It was always because I had not done what I was told to do. Instead trying to think of something you can say to your mom, try to think of something you can do for her. Actions speak louder than words sometimes.

[junebug]

HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM........................

"MOM !........It is not mine....it is fradyfreds........he is a buddy of mine!....AND THAT KNIFE IS HIS DADS!!!!!!! and his dad NEEDS it back!!!!.....please DONT make trouble for fradyfred , his dad just NEEDS the knife back!......

THEN.............. ya just hide it from her!!!!! never say anything bout it again .....except.....FRADYFREDS DAD SAYS THANX , MOM!!!!...........

that might work?????

always here ta help
junebug

[Wilder]

Buy one really nice knife instead of 2-3 mediocre knives.

Only my opinion.

Good luck,
Wilder

[SlippieNut22]

Sorry guys to bring up this old topic but this really sparked my interest. Im 16 now and its taken a long time to build the trust of my parents to let me collect as i do. I'll tell you now that begging has no effect, but showing effort and a real interest in pocket knives was the key for me. Make a display case or something of that sort to really get there attention. I started when i was 14 with the cheap flea specials haha, but as time went on i learned to appreciate the good old hand crafted pocket knife. Now I have about 30 Cases and a couple dozen other brands. Just take your time and show your maturity level and they will see. And just enjoy the ride once you start.

[trail]

Thanks for jumping in, Slip, since you're closer to Absule's age that may give you more credibility with him. I think your comments are spot on.

[rangerbluedog]

Sorry guys to bring up this old topic but this really sparked my interest. Im 16 now and its taken a long time to build the trust of my parents to let me collect as i do. I'll tell you now that begging has no effect, but showing effort and a real interest in pocket knives was the key for me. Make a display case or something of that sort to really get there attention. I started when i was 14 with the cheap flea specials haha, but as time went on i learned to appreciate the good old hand crafted pocket knife. Now I have about 30 Cases and a couple dozen other brands. Just take your time and show your maturity level and they will see. And just enjoy the ride once you start.

I can think of no finer example to emulate than SlippieNut22. Here's someone who has done it right!
Good job Slippie!

[SlippieNut22]

Thanks guys, i appreciate the kind comments

[Joe Dirt]

A friend of mine (Chase) lost his dad to cancer. He's 11yrs old. He and his dad spent a lot of time collecting knives, fantasy swards and other cool weapons an things!

I never got the chance to meet his old man.
His mom works with my wife.

One day, my wife and I, went to there house to pick up an old recliner.
Chase drug me to the basement and proudly showed me his very unique display, not even knowing I was a collector! He was a bit stunned when I started responding to him with "knife terminology" as he ALSO spoke the language!

O.K. to shorten things up a bit, I gave Chase a switchblade (with his mom's permission) only stating "don't take it to school, fool, it's illegal".
A few days later, my wife told me this story: Chase and his mom were walking through Waly-Mart and Chase "suddenly froze in place"!
Mom: "What's wrong son?" Chase: "I've got that switchblade in my pocket" ! Mom: "don't worry son, just keep it in your pocket, you're O.K."
Chase was relieved that his mom trusted him and didn't jump his case, but he sure wanted to "get the heck out of wally world"
I have given him several more knives since.

Do any of you guys buy knives for your boys?

............... Joe

[rangerbluedog]

My son grew up with me as his Cub Scout / Webelos / Boy Scout leader. I've given him several knives, and taught him how to use them safely. He's never injured himself or anyone else with a knife.
He has a drawer full of knives. Nowadays he has no interest in them whatsoever - except as a tool.

[junebug]

ALL JOKES ASIDE (which is hard for me )



slippienut is SO right!!!!!!!!! GOOD LOOKIN' OUT KID !!!!!!
now there is a kid w/ a head on his shoulders!!!!! and obvious common sense

my son just turned 17....he has collected/used knives for a several years now, to date he has never had any problems or injuries....but he did have to attend the :"OFFICIAL" parental unit school of knives....!!!!!!!lol......he must have listened some...lol

[orvet]

Do any of you guys buy knives for your boys?

............... Joe

I buy them for my boys, who now have boys of their own.
So the grandkids get them as well (boys & girls).
I have 16 grand kids and all of the older ones (9 or 10 of them) have gotten knives from me.
The ones who are interested in it, have made their own knives from blanks or have customized a folder. Some have done both.

It is great fun!

Dale

[trail]

I give knives to my daughter whenever I see something she might like. She also has an old Schrade that her natural father gave her before he died. She likes the smaller knives and especially the figurals, character knives and advertising knives. I don't know if I'll ever make a collector out of her, but she seems to like them and keeps them all together on her table. I also give knives to her boyfriends - this could get expensive as she goes through them fast...