Prayers for Vera
Posted: Thu Apr 15, 2021 4:09 pm
Not everyone is lucky enough to have in-laws that they enjoy and get along with.
My mother-in-law Vera has always been a joy to be around since day one. She has
loved and supported our family for over 45 years. To all of our children and grandchildren
she is known as “Little Grandma.” Born during the Great Depression, she and her
6 siblings grew up in the farming communities on the Oklahoma/Kansas border on lands
that her family had owned ever since the Oklahoma Land Rush of 1889.
In 2016 she was told she had cancer in her left lung. Now after 5 years and many
treatments it has spread to her right lung and her bones. As a last resort she tried
an experimental drug, but it only made her days worse with pain, loss of appetite,
and loss of weight. She is almost 89 years old, 4’9” and weights around 93 lbs. and
is on oxygen almost 24x7. She has told the doctor, no more. She doesn’t want to be
put in any kind of facility, she wants to be at home during her final days, so we have
called in home hospice care. They don’t provide 24x7 in home care until the very end,
but there is an assigned team that is on call for us day or night should we need some
type of assistance or medication for pain. So far I give them 10 stars for their support.
We don’t know if her time left is days, weeks, or months, but it is coming very soon.
My wife Cheryl is her primary care giver at present and I see it weighing heavily on her
every day. I found her in tears in the shower the other day because her emotions had
just become too great. My daughter is now helping on nights that she can in order to
give Cheryl a break from the night time needs. Vera is unable to do just about anything
on her own so, the need is constant day and night. Also, a friend that lost her mother
not too long ago may start coming over to provide some help. My knife activities and
writing will have to take a back seat right now. I’m taking care of all the household
chores and the things that I can prepare for at the time of one’s passing so Cheryl doesn’t
have those burdens, but I still worry about Cheryl’s health too.
My prayer and purpose is to see that her last days are pain free as much as possible;
that she is comfortable and that she gets whatever she wants or needs. I am certain
that she knows Jesus as her Lord and Savior, so I know her eternity will be with God in
Heaven and that we will see each other again.
I’m not asking my friends at AAPK to write anything now with this posting, just say a prayer
for comfort and that Vera’s passing will be peaceful. Pray for physical and mental strength
for Cheryl and me as we continue with the everyday tasks of life and provide the best care
we can for Vera during this time.
May God bless and keep you all,
David & Cheryl Roberts
My mother-in-law Vera has always been a joy to be around since day one. She has
loved and supported our family for over 45 years. To all of our children and grandchildren
she is known as “Little Grandma.” Born during the Great Depression, she and her
6 siblings grew up in the farming communities on the Oklahoma/Kansas border on lands
that her family had owned ever since the Oklahoma Land Rush of 1889.
In 2016 she was told she had cancer in her left lung. Now after 5 years and many
treatments it has spread to her right lung and her bones. As a last resort she tried
an experimental drug, but it only made her days worse with pain, loss of appetite,
and loss of weight. She is almost 89 years old, 4’9” and weights around 93 lbs. and
is on oxygen almost 24x7. She has told the doctor, no more. She doesn’t want to be
put in any kind of facility, she wants to be at home during her final days, so we have
called in home hospice care. They don’t provide 24x7 in home care until the very end,
but there is an assigned team that is on call for us day or night should we need some
type of assistance or medication for pain. So far I give them 10 stars for their support.
We don’t know if her time left is days, weeks, or months, but it is coming very soon.
My wife Cheryl is her primary care giver at present and I see it weighing heavily on her
every day. I found her in tears in the shower the other day because her emotions had
just become too great. My daughter is now helping on nights that she can in order to
give Cheryl a break from the night time needs. Vera is unable to do just about anything
on her own so, the need is constant day and night. Also, a friend that lost her mother
not too long ago may start coming over to provide some help. My knife activities and
writing will have to take a back seat right now. I’m taking care of all the household
chores and the things that I can prepare for at the time of one’s passing so Cheryl doesn’t
have those burdens, but I still worry about Cheryl’s health too.
My prayer and purpose is to see that her last days are pain free as much as possible;
that she is comfortable and that she gets whatever she wants or needs. I am certain
that she knows Jesus as her Lord and Savior, so I know her eternity will be with God in
Heaven and that we will see each other again.
I’m not asking my friends at AAPK to write anything now with this posting, just say a prayer
for comfort and that Vera’s passing will be peaceful. Pray for physical and mental strength
for Cheryl and me as we continue with the everyday tasks of life and provide the best care
we can for Vera during this time.
May God bless and keep you all,
David & Cheryl Roberts
