Things I Learned Because of Dad

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Things I Learned Because of Dad

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I did not intend this forum to be all serious stories, but the first few seem to have been more on the serious side. We will get to the humor sooner or later. ::nod::

This is not really a story, I guess there are those who would call it poetry, however I don't consider it poetry because it does not rhyme.

I wrote this in 2002 for my dad. My sister read it at my parents church on Father's Day 2002. My wife & I were visiting that day, but I didn't trust my voice to be steady enough to make it through the whole piece. Anyway, it is for my dad, and dads everywhere.


Things I Learned Because of Dad


I learned to tell the truth......
Because Dad always did.

I learn to work hard and provide for my family.....
Because Dad always did.

I learned to serve others.....
Because Dad always did.

I learned how to fish.....
Because Dad taught me.

I learned how to face challenges.....
Because Dad did.

I learned how to overcome great obstacles.....
Because Dad did.

I learned to go to church.....
Because Dad always did.

I learned how to pray.....
Because Dad always did.

I learned how to forgive others.....
Because Dad always did.

I learned how to love others.....
Because Dad always did.

I learned how to love my wife.....
Because Dad always loved Mom.

I learned to be a good father.....
Because Dad was.

Thanks Dad.
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::tu:: Thanks Dale!
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That's great Dale, my Dad was the very same. ::nod::
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Good job, Dale! ::tu:: ::tu::

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Dale, that's very nice. Your Dad was a special man. I'm quite sure you and all your siblings know that.

My Dad was not like yours.

He loved us, there was no doubt about that.

He died when he was sixty-two.

I mourned him greatly, partly because of what was lost, but mostly for what would never be.

Several years later, I was having an electrical problem at home. I just couldn't figure out the solution. Suddenly, I thought, "Call Daddy, he'll know exactly what's wrong."

Dad was a master electrician.

Just as suddenly, I realized I couldn't call him. He was dead. I sat down and cried all over again.

I could take your poem and make every single one of those statements and them confirm them by adding....."Because Daddy did not".

You learned by your Father's example. I learned by the lack of positive example in my Father's life.

Don't get me wrong. We did have some good times. Gun shows, etc and that's what led me into pocketknives. I still have every knife he ever gave me.

He was sober once for seven years.

But, drunken Christmases, drunken summer vacation trips, DT's in a VA Hospital, the only toilet in the house torn from the bathroom wall in a drunken fall, vomit all over the house and other things tend to steal the joys from one's memory.

I asked him to be my Best Man at our wedding one month before I went to Viet Nam in 1969. He was so drunk on our wedding day that he was almost incapable of standing with me at the front of the church. He did manage it, though.

You were so fortunate, Dale. What a great and wonderful Father you had.

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Charlie, It seems to me it took a great deal of courage to "spill your guts" so to speak. Reading your response to Orvet's piece may cause some of us think about where we are in relationship to our precious families. Thank you sir. Treefarmer

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"You learned by your Father's example. I learned by the lack of positive example in my Father's life."


Charlie,

My friend, believe me I understand this statement all too well.

IMO it's not so much how you learn as what you learn as you pass through this life.

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Guys, my Dad was no monster, but they dwelt in his soul. He had his own demons and didn't know how to quell them.

He wasn't a social drinker. He drank in private. He drank to forget.

It just didn't work.

I may write something here later that will show him in a more positive light.

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Your lucky to have had him at all.
My dad was killed in a working accident in Port Angelis, Washington in 1953.
He was a sober, hard working, very bright mechanic among other skills. I was 6 years old.
Within a year my mother married a beligerent bastardly coward. For years we suffered.
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Thanks guys for sharing about your fathers, both good and bad. I am sorry for the misfortune you suffered; hearing about it only makes me appreciate my dad that much more.

I talked to my parents today; they had come from the doctor’s office. My mom has cancer of the lymph system. She starts chemotherapy next week. My dad has several medical problems himself (who doesn't it 83) but he was being strong for my mom. They will have been married 64 years (I think) next month. I think dad loves mom more now than ever. It has been a blessing to me to have seen the love they share after so many years and who wants that will grow.
Dad's not as tall as he used to be, but to me he is still a giant among men!
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Dale, I wish your Mom well.

You're very lucky to still have them.

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Charlie, I never knew you Dad or any other thing he did in his life but, I do know he raised a very good man as a son.
Dale, my families prayers go out to both of your parents and you. I know what your going through.

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I was looking for another topic and saw this one and read through this one. I posted it almost 5 years ago.
Mom and dad are with us, they will be 88 at the end of this year. In June they will have been married 68 years.
They are older, more frail than they were 5 years ago. My brother and sister-in-law bought a travel trailer and moved it on to mom and dad's place. My brother talked dad out of driving.
Mom has been on and off of chemo in the last five years. Dad is still getting around a bit slower, but they both have their sense of humor and they both love the Lord. Both are ready to go home to see the Lord.

I have truly been blessed to be their son. ::nod::
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That is just great Dale! You are a rich man my friend. Lloyd
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A very wise man said that the most important thing parents can do for their children is to show the kids that they love each other. Dale, that has been a great blessing for you.

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Those of you that have strong family values are very lucky. As for me not so much. I learned that I only had myself to depend on. But through life I learned that I have God and that's all I need!

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Thanks Dale. My Dad wasn't much of a fisherman but the rest of the piece you wrote was my Dad. I lost him about 20 years ago and Mom around 10 years ago. They were both Godly loving parents who raised 7 kids who all adored them both. I never took for granted how great a gift I was given for the parents God gave me. Thanks again for the reminder of how great I had it and how great some of the younger Dads reading this can make life for their kids. ____Dave
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::tu:: My dad was a good man, but inbetween your fathers he had his good days and bad. I learned alot from him when he was home, he was a longhaul trucker. Sometimes things in your fathers pasts caused them to be what they became, abuse, military experiences, maybe just a bad experiences. Allways just remember the good things and forget the bad. Love you Dad. Your son Terry.
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montemojo wrote:Those of you that have strong family values are very lucky. As for me not so much. I learned that I only had myself to depend on. But through life I learned that I have God and that's all I need!

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That is the most important lesson any of us can learn Monte!

Jesus told the parable of the Prodigal Son, or so it is called by many Bible teachers and commentators. But as I read the story it is really about a Loving Father who accepts his son back no matter how far off track he is gotten.
Of course the father in the parable represents God and each of us are the prodigal.
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Dale, in my younger days I was guided by my own carnal satisfactions. Greed, lust, and others. I was successful in doing this. But very unhappy. I contracted bacterial meningitis one day. I knew I was dying. There was no one around. I talked with god that day I let him know that I would rather be in hell than live another day in this world. Obviously he seen things differently. Thank goodness. So out of the blue a friend of mines wife showed up and insisted that I go to the hospital. The doctors said if I would have waited one more hour there wouldn't have been anything they could do. Since then I have changed my way of thinking. I have read the bible front to back and the new testiment again. I didn't understand it all. But to help me better understand Ive also read Fox's book of martyrs and 23 minutes in hell by Bill Wiese. Now I have faith in God and happily await the day I leave this world and travel into the next. I am still a lil hard headed and have trust issues concerning my fellow man in this world that is ruled by greed.

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Dale, it's great to hear that your folks are still here and apparently doing reasonably well. ::tu::

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Monte, oftentimes, one has to arrive at the lowest, most desperate point in their lives before they are ready to take that one little step of faith toward God, just to realize He's been right there, all the time, waiting for them to just reach out to Him.

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Charlie that is so true, thanks for your comments. As for me I will never doubt the Lord and what he has done for me. Which is everything good that has happened in my life. I try my best to live right and will continue til the day he calls for me. I've heard so many say they wish to go in their sleep. Not for me I would prefer giving my life saving another or in the name of the Lord. I couldn't care less wether it were painful or not. Thanks

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Monte, great testimony! Thanks for sharing that.
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RobesonsRme.com wrote:Monte, oftentimes, one has to arrive at the lowest, most desperate point in their lives before they are ready to take that one little step of faith toward God, just to realize He's been right there, all the time, waiting for them to just reach out to Him.

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Very true Charlie! ::nod::
Colonel26 wrote:Monte, great testimony! Thanks for sharing that.
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